"Flee from Romance Scammers This Valentine’s: My Story of Survival"

a broken heart wrapped in caution tape, warning about romance scams.

Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about love, affection, and meaningful connections. But for many, it becomes a season of deception, heartbreak, and even danger. I know this firsthand because I lived through it.

I fell in love with a man I met online. He was charming, attentive, and said all the right things. We built a connection that felt real, strong—like destiny. But what I thought was love turned into a nightmare. I married him, believing in the future we had planned, only to wake up one day fighting for my life. He tried to smother me to death.

The Devastating Truth About Online Romance Scams

Romance scammers and abusers don’t always come with warning signs flashing in neon lights. They often wear the mask of the perfect partner—showering you with affection, making promises of forever, and luring you into a false sense of security. But behind the facade, many are predators waiting for the right moment to strike.

Some scams are financial—they steal your money. Others, like mine, are even more sinister—they steal your trust, your sense of safety, and in some cases, they try to steal your life.

Red Flags to Watch Out For

🚩 Love-bombing—too much, too soon

🚩 Refusing to video call or meet in person (or rushing marriage if they do)

🚩 Isolating you from family and friends

🚩 Asking for money, gifts, or financial support

🚩 Becoming angry or manipulative when questioned

🚩 Inconsistencies in their stories

How to Protect Yourself

💡 Trust your instincts—if something feels off, it probably is

💡 Verify their identity—do a reverse image search and background check

💡 Never send money or share sensitive information

💡 Set boundaries—real love respects them

💡 Seek support—if a relationship turns controlling or abusive, don’t stay silent

Survivor, Not Victim

I escaped. I survived. And I refuse to let my story be one of shame or silence. If my experience can help even one person avoid the trap of a romance scam or an abusive online relationship, then sharing it is worth it.

This Valentine’s, I urge you—don’t just look for love. Look for truth, for safety, for real connections that honor and respect you. And if something doesn’t feel right, flee.

Love should never cost your dignity, your security, or your life.

Love You, Be Safe ❤️

Author Kimberly Jackson